Another common mistake spouses make, usually, men are leaving the home once another spouse requests a divorce. When a spouse leaves the home before a divorce is finalized, especially if they stop paying bills, the courts may interpret this as abandoning the family. This may have a negative impact on both divisions of property and parental responsibilities.
Involving the Kids
Feelings of betrayal and anger are typical of divorce. For the sake of the children though, any outward expression of anger should be avoided. Although you and your spouse consensually agreed to form a relationship, the same can’t be said for your kids. For your son or daughter, you and your spouse are the only parents they have ever known.
Although most kids recover about two years after a divorce, a small percentage of children suffer longer-term psychological issues. Hostility between spouses can be emotionally traumatic to growing adolescents. In fact, according to Scientific American, “Researchers have consistently found that high levels of parental conflict during and after a divorce are associated with poorer adjustment in children.” So do yourself and your kids a favor, keep your issues with your spouse completely separate from your relationship with your children.