School Records & Emotional Harm: What The Kelly Loving Act Signals
Under the Kelly Loving Act, Colorado schools are now required by law to honor a student’s gender identity. This includes using the student’s chosen name and pronouns, and allowing students to dress in a way that aligns with their gender expression.
For families involved in custody disputes, this change could have real consequences in court. If one parent consistently supports their child’s gender identity and the other does not, schools may take note—and in some cases, create a record. For example, a teacher or counselor might document that one parent refused to use a child’s correct name or objected to the child wearing gender-affirming clothing. These types of records could be brought into court as evidence of emotional harm or a lack of parental support.
While the law doesn’t define misgendering or deadnaming as a form of legal abuse, repeated and intentional behavior of this kind, especially when it creates distress for the child, may be viewed as part of a pattern of emotional abuse or harassment. In family court, this can impact decisions around:
Judges are tasked with protecting a child’s mental and emotional well-being. When a parent’s actions show a refusal to affirm a child’s identity, that behavior may be weighed against them in decisions about custody or visitation.