I’m getting ready to leave and maybe even divorce my abuser… now what?
The average domestic violence victim tries to leave seven times before she actually does. I say “she” because most reported cases are male on female. However, domestic violence occurs in all relationships with all sorts of partners: male, female, transsexual, heterosexual, and homosexual. For today’s purposes, we’re going to say “she.”
Why does it take so many tries to leave? Lots of reasons. Loss of support, fear of her batterer, concern for her children, her culture, a disability, belief in excuses and promises of change, or simply because she has no other option. If you’re reading this and you feel locked into a situation because you are afraid of what will happen when you try to get out, this article might help.
The most important thing is your safety. Let me say that again. The most important thing is your safety!
You can’t protect your children if you don’t protect yourself. While you are still in the relationship, you need to do a few basic things:
If you’ve already left and are still scared for your safety:
Be aware that when you leave, you are in the most danger, so be aware of your surroundings. Keep your eyes open. Protect yourself. If you need help getting a restraining order or a divorce, call one of our experienced divorce lawyers at Modern Family Law. We’ll help or point you towards resources that can help.
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