If you ask anyone, divorce ranks as one of the most stressful events in anyone’s life. Regardless of whether or not you have kids, or how long you’ve been married, dividing up your assets and starting over is a harrowing experience. If you’re considering filing for divorce, here’s what you can expect the process to look like:
Stage One: Pleading or Filing Your Case
A Petition for Dissolution (with or without children) is filed with the court as well as a response from the opposing party. Although the Court offers boilerplate forms to initiate a divorce, we have seen our fair share of clean-up projects in which we have had to amend pleadings to assert or defend against claims or requested relief (child support, spousal maintenance, military retirement division).
Sometimes the ship has sailed and it’s impossible or extremely expensive to right the wrong or omission from the original pleadings. If nothing else, an attorney can provide a reasonable buffer between the filing party and the opposing party. After all, some comfort in challenging times is warranted by simply telling your ex, “Please contact my attorney because I don’t want to talk about this.”
Stage Two: Preparing for Your Initial Status Conference of Court Facilitator Meeting
This is a meeting where deadlines for your case are set so the Court knows your case will move along. The average divorce case in some Colorado counties can take over 4 months, depending on the assigned division and the court’s docket. More complex cases involving experts or hotly contested issues result in longer case duration and can last for several months or a full year after filing. The quickest divorce can be completed in 91 days (Colorado recognizes a statutory 90-day cooling-off period).
California carries a mandatory waiting period of six months before a divorce can be finalized. From the time you initially file for divorce, there is a six-month waiting period prior to your California divorce being finalized. Once this waiting period has passed and all of the proper divorce forms have been completed, the judge can sign the final judgment without either spouse having to appear in court if all of the documents are completed correctly. Once a judge has signed your final judgment your divorce is legally finalized.
In Texas, there is a mandatory waiting period of 60-days from the time of your initial filing of the petition for divorce. You will have to wait at least 60 days before you can present the final divorce decree to a judge.
At the Status Conference, the Court may set additional deadlines in the event the parties have not completed the disclosure and financial exchange process. In some cases, informal or formal discovery is necessary. Discovery is the process of collecting evidence by way of subpoenas, depositions, and written interrogatories (questions to be answered under oath). Disclosures (discussed above) are required and must conform to the court’s orders and standard rules of procedure. Discovery, on the other hand, is initiated at the request of either party. Rest assured, discovery can be managed by the parties with the court being available to resolve any discovery or disclosure disputes.
Stage Three: Attempting to Settle
There is no requirement that you must settle your case but the opportunity is valuable because contested issues will be identified while other issues may be resolved entirely (this is a great way to reduce legal fees where it makes no sense to argue about resolved issues!). In some cases, we are able to resolve all issues, enter into a written separation agreement, and can even file everything with the court for final approval.
It’s possible to complete the divorce process without having to appear in court for a contested hearing. Ask the attorneys at the Modern Family Law about your specific case and settlement potential, in full or in part. The legal process should never be a process that infuses conflict where none exists. If the issue isn’t contested, watch out for the attorneys who try to force you to argue about resolved issues just to add legal fees and cost to an already painful process.
If the settlement conference doesn’t resolve all of the issues between the parties, you can proceed to a Temporary Orders Hearing. Be careful though, it may or may not be to your advantage to request a temporary order hearing during the Initial Status Conference (discussed above). Temporary order hearings are exactly what they sound like: a heading to resolve temporary parenting time issues, temporary responsibilities for paying bills, temporary child support, temporary spousal maintenance (or alimony), and temporary use and possession of the marital home and other marital property.