“Divorce is easy.” – said no one, ever. Going through a divorce is one of life’s most stressful experiences both emotionally and financially. In today’s world, we often turn to social media as an outlet to voice our opinions, seek solace with friends, or simply to keep up with the Kardashians… I mean news. As you browse your Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter feeds, here are the top 5 things you should avoid:
1. Posting About Your Divorce
While it may be cathartic to tell the world what you really think about your ex, social media is not the forum. Whether your opinion is good or bad, you should keep it to yourself. Or at least, keep it between yourself and the people you have a real-life, in-person relationship with. Talk to your friends, your family, or even a mental health professional. Divorce is difficult, and it’s healthy to voice your feelings in the appropriate forum.
2. Sharing Photos of Your Vacation
I get it, you need a break from the chaos and you splurged on that beach vacation you have always wanted to go on. Good for you! You definitely deserve some rest and relaxation. Indulge at the moment and avoid posting the amazing photos of your travels on social media. At least, for now. . . #latergram. Money is always an issue in divorce proceedings. The court and the attorneys involved in your case are meticulously tracking every penny you earn and spend. Don’t give your ex a reason to pick a fight over money. You especially don’t want the Judge scrolling through those stunning sunset photos when you take the witness stand and argue against the whopping amount of spousal support your ex is requesting.
3. Friending Your New Boyfriend/Girlfriend
The goal of every divorce is to move on with your life. Many people find themselves in a new relationship before their divorce is finalized. This is perfectly fine in most cases. If you have minor children, you should avoid friending your boyfriend/girlfriend or posting about your new relationship on social media. Resist the urge to make it “Facebook official.” Your new significant other will thank you later. Trust me, he/she does not want opposing counsel digging up their dirt or serving them with a subpoena to testify at your Divorce Hearing.
4. Soliciting Friends to Testify in Court
If your divorce is contentious, it is natural to try and build the strongest case possible. You should avoid soliciting the entire social media universe to rally against your ex. This will not only reflect poorly on you but also color any witness’ testimony who may respond to your battle-call. You should leave the witness recruiting to your attorney.
5. Posting Photos of Your Kids
In Colorado, the determination of parenting time hinges on the “best interest of the children.” If you have children, keep their photos off your social media account. Even the best intentioned, innocent photographs can be twisted into an argument against your parenting ability. That silly photo of the baby holding the empty beer bottle is suddenly not so funny in court.
When going through a divorce, my best advice is to ghost on your social media accounts. Your divorce will be over soon. I promise. Until then, browse the feeds in the proverbial social-media silence. Your safest bet in these next few months is to keep your opinions, photos and LIKES to yourself. It will be hard, but it may be the difference in the outcome of your case. Remember, “anything you say can and will be used against you in a court of law.” Don’t give your ex, or their attorney, a reason to pit your followers against you.
For more information or for help with your divorce, please contact Modern Family Law for a free initial consultation.
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